Lil Miss Bump Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 Dad's cancer is terminal. Basically the cancer he has doesn't ever GO. It hangs around and comes back bigger and worse than the first time. He has lumps in his nodes in his groin which have been kept the same size due to the chemo (which is really good) He may have a year left-he may have 10.............but 10 is unlikely. The chemo has worked really well and hardly given him any side effects which is a bonus :-) He's been reffered to radiotherapy who we are meeting with next wednesday to see what they say but basically all of this is prolonging his life rather than to 'beat the cancer' Don't really know what else to say to you guys if I'm honest, I am doing ok and so is he-we both knew it would never go but I actually sat and had a big talk with his Dr today and got him to tell me everything as dad is quite......i duno.....cagey when it comes to talking about it.......basically he doesn't like talking about things that dont have proper answers-which is why he's not talking about the future etc............. i was telling him about the bucket list today and the one thing that really made me smile was that he has nothing on it because he's travelled the world, had kids, got even better adopted kids etc that to me is great because if anything DID happen soon he'd go with no regrets. He means the world to me as you all know so I DO expect some crappy times ahead but I've had 8 years with the best adopted dad in the whole world and I hope I have many more-but I refuse to dwell on it-as he certainly aint. Thank you all for all your thoughts, love and support. I'd appreciate it if you didn't talk about it on facebook as there are a lot of dad's friends on there and non of them know what is going on with it. lots of love Diz xxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kells xx Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 im always here for you aimee and i will keep your dad in my prayers, you are amazing and your dad knows that hugs for you and your family and well wishes that you do have 10 years more with your dad xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
valkyries Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 so sorry to be reading this Diz just know we are thinking of you both and we are here and on msn or the phone if you need any thing xxxxxxxx love and hugs xxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Val (Zebedee) Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 that's a brave post, Diz, I know what you are going through, I went through it 2 yrs ago. All I can say is see him as much as you can, enjoy every minute, create fantastic memories that you can cherish when the time comes & make the most of each day knowing you have time. That is something I never got, but in the 3 months between diagnosis & his death, we laughed as much as possible. You know where I am, hunny, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparks Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 if you ever need anything we are here for you hun xxx my cousin was told he had months to live, and a year and a half later he is cancer free, so you never know hun, there is new technology being developed every day. Will be thinking of you and your family xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kissu & Aara Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 You'll both be in my thoughts. I hope these next 10 years will be full of happiness and laughter, as it seems the years before have been. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuskyCouture Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 you're family is in my thoughts Diz xx I hope he has the best years to come if you need anything, even just to talk, i'm here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 You know we are all here for you if you need anything or want someone to talk to xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 I'm so sorry to hear that, I know you only know me from the forum but I'd like to send you the best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tanya maggs Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 ((hugs)) Diz I am so sorry He is so lucky to have a daughter like you xx if you need anything just ask xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dygosamikita Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 Hang in there hun and make the best of whatever time you are given. The doctors do get it wrong as well, I have known people who were told they only had a couple of years but lived for 20. So glad to hear that your Dad has 'lived' and doesn't feel like there is anything that he wishes he had done or that he really wants to do. There are lots of people that can't say that. Just remember we are all here for you if you need anything Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 oh babe i'm so sorry to read this i know how much he means to you. don't overly dwell on things if you can, i know it's hard but you have all the love and support from your family and friends xxxx you know where i am xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leaddog Posted October 20, 2010 Report Share Posted October 20, 2010 So sorry Diz...I can't even imagine what you are going through...you and your dad are in my prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lokis_mom Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 I'm so sorry to hear that Diz, we are all here for you ...hugs... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mazz Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 Oh Diz, what can I say. You and your dad are in my prayers. A day at a time. Be strong for your dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabresmum Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 Thinking of you xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahNukka&Shadow Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 Oh god Diz Im so sorry! Im actually sat here welling up for you hon! Words just arnt enough... you know Im here for you sweety and your always welcome to come here and stay if you need to get away at all. All my love honey, massive hugs!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tan J P Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 i know i'm new on here but would just like to send you some hugs. i've been through this too and lost my mum 5yrs ago, only we only had 2 and a half mths from diagnosis til she left us for pastures new. cherish every moment hun,i'l be thinking of you and your dad. Best Wishes.....Tan xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lee&Falks Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 Not sure what to say Diz but you and your dad are in my thoughts, if there is anything I can do then please ask Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tamz Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 so sorry to be reading this chick.....i know i havent been on in a while but i am still here for you- always will be, you know that x x x x i will be thinking of you all- you dad especially x x x x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
instant-classic Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 I'm so sorry to hear this Diz, i honestly don't know what to say ......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sqwidge Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 You are in my thoughts Diz, big big hugs xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Miss Bump Posted October 21, 2010 Author Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 thanks guys, i love you all very much and i know where you are-aye i am keeping positive.....could be a year could be 10 but 10 is unlikely apparently..............sieze the day ey?! xxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renniwano Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 My thoughts are with you hun.. enjoy the time you have left and make a point of laughing about something you've done together every day Maybe start a memory box hun Huge hugs xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pokerking1 Posted October 21, 2010 Report Share Posted October 21, 2010 Hi Diz i dont know you that much but from reading some of your posts you make me laugh with some things you post... i can't say how you must feel but my best friend has lost his dad, sister to cancer and his brother has an incurable brain tumour and all in the last 2years, i will tell you the same as him... if you need to talk there is always people who will listen, including me... all the best and hope your dad knows how much you think of him.. Mark Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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