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Hello, i found this site at 5 am this morning and I've been searching all over for tips and ideas on what else i can do to settle my 15 month old husky. She's beautiful and my family and i love her to pieces, her name is Karma and we have had her for almost a year. My family and i have tried so many things to get her to settle and to wear her out so that she will calm down a little but no matter what we do, nothing ever seems good enough for her. When we first got Karma she was fretful and had abandonment issues and couldn't stand being apart from us, especially my mum! The people we rescued her from used to keep her in their flat all day, locked in a pokey kitchen for stupid amounts of hours a day. She was never taken for walks and her coat was filthy! When her previous owners came round to 'show' us Karma they originally came round so we could meet her and see how she would get on with our cats before we made any commitment. Little did we know her owners had other ideas. They had her things all packed in the boot of the car ready to dump her the second we agreed to have her. So within 10 minutes of our poor husky meeting us she was left with complete strangers and her previous owners disappeared off in their car. She hasn't had a great start in life, within her first 5 months of life she has had 3 sets of owners so re-homing karma AGAIN is the very last option my family and i would like to take. Sleeping at night On the first night of getting Karma we put rules in place, She would sleep downstairs and have no access to upstairs, That was our domain and she was to respect that...That didn't quite go to plan. After my family and i dispersed off to bed Karma cried and whined for hours upon hours because she hated being alone. So 1 at a time through the night my mum and i would go to the bottom of the stairs, reassure her, show her to her bed and after 10 minutes we would go back to bed, and then the crying and the whining would start again. I see now that going down to her on that first night was the biggest mistake we could of made, from day one we should of created rules and stuck to them but to hear any animal distressed and unhappy breaks our hearts and i couldn't bear being the ones causing her distress. The next night my mum decided for a decent night sleep for us all, she would allow karma to sleep on the floor at the foot of her bed, This worked wonders!! up until now.. She now paces the hallway and stairs all night, howling at the top of her lungs to go out for a wee up to 10 times a night. She nuzzles my mum awake every night for attention and the sleep deprivation is getting to us all! I am currently 2 weeks away from giving birth to my first child (I'm 21) and we've come to the conclusion this has to stop! we cant keep living under Karmas rules anymore, Seeing to her every need every night for what we believed would make life easier, it hasn't! she rules the roost! So yesterday my mum and i went out and bought a baby gate for the bottom of the stairs, A new plastic bed and a comfy throw, we even lay out her favorite teddy bear for comfort so she had something with her smell on it. We've decided enough is enough and she has to learn the pecking order once and for all. My mum and i spent all day and all night going and back and forth to her new bed with her getting her to climb in of her own free will, demand her to sit and rewarding her with a treat and a stroke so she would know that her new bed is a nice place to go, its not for scolding. We kept this up the entire day, Kept the stairway gated off so that she got used to the idea that she wasnt allowed upstairs anymore, she didn't seem too bothered by this...Until bedtime crept up on us slowly and it was time to put our words into action for real now, it was showtime! We let her out for her last wee of the night, she was fed 5 hours previously like normal and we did what all the forums and husky advice pages told us, do not pamper to her needs, do not overcompensate with the stroking before you leave her because of your own guilt. She will learn that its bedtime and bedtime means you sleep, yeah right! have these people ever owned a husky?! Nothing is quite that straight forward! We told her 'bed' pointed to her new bed she got in and sat down and seemed quite happy to be there, until we shut the gate and disappeared off upstairs. To cut a long story short(ish) She has spent the ENTIRE night howling, crying, chewing door frames, scratching at doors and practicing some acrobats, she only manages to climb the banisters, through the gap, past the gate and up the stairs.. I had to watch from the top of the stairs in sheer shock just to believe and to be honest, fathom out how on earth she got upstairs! She has destroyed our carpet at the bottom of the stairs and the top of the landing, chewed the upstairs door frame too, and as to what i can make out, she's peed on the landing. I then decided i couldn't lay back listening to her destroying our home any longer, so i got up, silently walked out of my bedroom, took her by the collar and led her to her bed, repeated the word 'bed' demanded her to sit, gave her a treat for what was good behavior and followed the rules, i closed the gate and disappeared upstairs. This went on for 2 hours, unbeknownst to me my mum has been up in the night too crying and trying to settle her as well, nothing has helped and we are at our wits end. I am due any day now and my mum is working a full time job. Karma has company all day everyday, she goes for a 4 mile walk everyday and i spent up to an hour everyday playing games and practicing her clicker training with her as that's all i can do at the moment as i am so heavily pregnant and i have been advised not to walk Karma as she is a sled pulling dog and i wouldn't stand a chance! To anyone else this might not seem like a big deal but this is just one of the situations we are dealing with, with karma. She also shreds our mail, howls through out the tv all day and all night because shes not getting our sole attention, shes pulling my mum and brother down the street ( we have ordered a backpack now as just the Halti is not working) she nips for attention, which to an adult is not a big deal because its a playful nip, but to my little cousins its quite frightening, shes a big dog! She will just of been fed and she will still go down the bin and pull out the rubbish, mainly teabags, she does like a good old munch on a pg tip! She howls and rattles the back door keys to go out for a wee, we get up to let her out and she walks off, or she'll go out, run to the end of the path turn round and jump the back door to come back in, less than 2 seconds later, we open the door for her and she runs away. its all a massive game to karma, but were not playing anymore we have had enough. we have tried numerous amounts of ways to get her to stop this attitude she has developed, and my mum stepped up as the Alpha and has become very stern with her. Simple things like 'OUT' when she walks into the kitchen whilst we're cooking, she picks up within minutes, and she can do it. But this sleeping pattern, and her disturbances we cant seem to crack! Please, has anyone got any other suggestions for us to try? We don't want to give up on her and we would love for her to be a part of our family until her very last days, shes beautiful in so many other ways, her behavior is just out of control and with a baby due any day now, there is only so much more of this we can withstand. Someone help us!! Thank you, Yasmin xx