My boyfriend and I are lost and need some advice.
Today Lunar bite me for real today, and it also included a friend visiting, so I am really shaken and troubled.
Background: I have only had obedient Labradors and Collies in my life, and I was brought up never to strike but just a Tap on the nose for bad behaviour. My boyfriend on the other hand does strike. Which has led to Lunar loves playing with him and behaves out of fear. Lunar loves me (she is my dog, I exercise her, cuddle her and I'm the one she runs to if scared or in pain) However, from an early age with all my wild camping, and trips away, it's a lot of just me and her time. And any visitors into our area she is cautious about, albeit our camping site or home. Normal discipline: if she does something naughty straight to her bed for time out.
Now let the story begin:
2 weeks ago she was having fun in the bath and I asked her to get out. She did not respond. I asked her again in my angry teacher voice. Nothing, went to pick her up and she growled and snarled. In the end I physically grabbed her out of bath. All done.
Last Friday cooking chips, one falls on floor, I went to pick it up and she bit me. Shocked, surprised I did hit her back, and as soon as I said bed she took herself there knowing full well she did wrong.
Today, friend came round to visit. Normal growling and resultant banishing from room. However, boyfriend gave her a bone just before he leaves. 1 hr into visit she comes in places bone on floor and lunges for my friend sitting at the table. I get up to shout no and hit her, she wets herself and leaps onto the sofa.
Needless to say, friend leaves. I ask her to come off the sofa, go to pick up bone and she snaps and growls at me. I try again, and this time she manages to bite me and refuses to get off.
Boyfriend comes home, gets her off physically, I say bed and off she goes, tail between her legs.
20 minutes later, I am writing this shaking from adrenaline and she is all over me for cuddles.
So, I need desperate advice: how do I make her accept visitors when it's just me and her? And what response should I give when she refuses to act and takes an aggressive approach?